We all get our share of pain and loss in life. Some seem to get more than their fair share.
When someone you love is hurting, it’s normal to want to help but sometimes it’s hard to know how to help. Here are a few pointers from people that have had their fair share of suffering and support.
“I’d say that what these experiences call for is a sort of passive activism. We have a tendency, especially in an achievement-oriented culture, to want to solve problems and repair brokenness — to propose, plan, fix, interpret, explain and solve. But what seems to be needed here is the art of presence — to perform tasks without trying to control or alter the elemental situation. Allow nature to take its course. Grant the sufferers the dignity of their own process. Let them define meaning. Sit simply through moments of pain and uncomfortable darkness. Be practical, mundane, simple and direct.”
See the full NY Times article here: goo.gl/0124W8
Got stress? Here’s what you can do to help yourself: Change the way you think.
See the full video by Dr.Mike Evans here: goo.gl/YeQhth
Great instructional video on the value of moving for just 30 minutes day. Shocking and inspiring. See it here: goo.gl/Y03kHK
This NY Times article reviews a new book and TED talk that addresses the psychology of keeping sex alive in a marriage.
“Perhaps not since Dr. Ruth commandeered American airwaves in the 1980s has there been a public figure with so much of an audience for her work on human sexuality. But if Dr. Ruth was trying to talk explicitly about the mechanics of sex in a pre-Lewinsky, relatively tame media environment, Ms. Perel has captured attention in the era of the oversexed. Instead of offering more explicitness, she writes and talks about the aspects of sexuality that can’t be captured on a screen, the hidden, psychological states that do or do not set the mechanics in motion.
“Blatantness doesn’t inspire you these days,” said Ms. Perel, drinking French press coffee in the kitchen of her downtown Manhattan apartment not long ago. She was wearing huge sparkling hoop earrings and a tank top. “But to talk about mystery is immensely inspiring.” Embracing the mysteries of desire means she is also not on the hook for offering prescriptive answers to reviving a sex life that’s flatlined. “Americans fundamentally believe there is not a problem that does not have a solution — it’s the Nike approach: Just do it. But try to apply that to eroticism?” she asked, then shook her head. “I don’t have answers, as in ‘This is what you do.’ I do say, ‘This how I think it works.’ ”
Read the article here: goo.gl/GlTLHB
See the TED video here: goo.gl/Wlavo5
I love Brene Brown’s TED videos. They are insightful and inspiring. Watch this instead of re-runs on TV tonight:
The Power of Vulnerability
Listening to Shame