Counseling Services

I provide individual and couples counseling. I can help you:

  • find clarity amid confusing circumstances and feelings;
  • mend strained relationships;
  • identify your goals and achieve them;
  • feel calm, strong and effective in your relationship with yourself and the people in your life;
  • learn how to cope with life so you can have lasting peace on the inside, regardless of what’s going on outside.

My philosophy on counseling can best be summarized by The Serenity Prayer*: “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

The issues we can change or solve are the issues we have control over. Ultimately, we only have control over our thoughts and behaviors, everything else in life is outside of our control. We cannot change or control the past, other people’s choices, certain diseases, the economy, climate change, etc. We cannot change or solve these problems, but we can change how we choose to deal with them and that is very powerful.

Based on this wisdom, I offer two approaches to helping you resolve your challenges:

1. For the problems that can be changed, essentially your thoughts and behavior, I offer take a pragmatic problem solving approach that focuses on resolving a specific problem through new thinking and behaviors.

2. For problems that can’t be changed (because they are outside of your control) I take a soul-searching approach to help you create an inner state of well-being regardless of what’s going on outside.

Both approaches develop within you the skills to gain clarity and peace of mind so that you can be at your best in work, relationships and simply feel better. And both approaches give you skills that you can use long after the counseling is finished. Both are an investment in your long-term well-being. Counseling typically involves both approaches.

I work only with adult individuals. I do not offer services for couples, families, nor minors.

I am particularly interested in helping people recover from trauma. I have training in EMDR and Sensorimotor Psychotherapy (body-based trauma processing). I am also trained in psychodynamic talk therapy and use sandtray and other visual tools to find new ways to express thoughts and feelings that are otherwise hard to name. I frequently utilize mindfulness and breathing techniques because they are so effective in managing feelings and are free to use and easy to learn – anyone can benefit from this.

*Please know that I choose the serenity prayer for the wisdom it contains, I have no political nor religious agenda invested in using it. People of all religious and political beliefs are welcome.

Treatment methods offered:

  • Talk therapy – the traditional approach of venting, sorting things out and finding a new way to move forward.
  • Sandtray – good for people that have trouble finding the right words to describe what’s bothering them.
  • EMDR – (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) trauma treatment.
  • Sensorimotor Psychotherapy – body-based trauma treatment

Treatment specializations include:

  • Relationship problems (spouse, family, friends, coworkers)
  • Depression
  • Anxiety and fear
  • Grief and loss
  • Overcoming childhood traumas
  • Conflict resolution
  • LGBT friendly

Changes I Help People Manage:

  • Grief & Loss
  • Divorce or break-up
  • Loosing close friends
  • Betrayal
  • Hospice
  • Death of a loved one (family, friend, pet)

Relationships & Family:

  • Just engaged
  • Just married
  • New baby
  • Relationship strain and communication problems
  • Empty nest
  • Divorce
  • Severe illness or addiction of a loved one
  • Caring for aging parents

Big Decisions:

  • Relocating to a new town
  • Divorce
  • New job
  • Coming out as LGBT

New Identity or Role:

  • Loosing a large amount of weight
  • Loss of a job
  • Retirement
  • Empty nest
  • Serious injury

Facing Problems:

  • Legal problems
  • Divorce
  • Financial problems
  • Ready to break a bad habit or stop an addiction
  • Staying sober
  • Overcoming childhood traumas

Seeking Happiness and Peace of Mind:

  • Sick and tired of being sick and tired. Tired of being unhappy, and ready to do something about it.
  • Finding peace and happiness in a time when the world sometimes feels hostile and crazy
  • Traumatic accident
  • Victim of crime or violence
  • Financial upset

For more information or to make an appointment,
please call (805) 267-0807
or email me at


“Courage does not always roar.
Sometimes courage is the quiet voice
at the of the day saying,
“I will try again tomorrow”.
– Mary Anne Radmacher