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How to Comfort Someone in Pain

We all get our share of pain and loss in life. Some seem to get more than their fair share.

When someone you love is hurting, it’s normal to want to help but sometimes it’s hard to know how to help. Here are a few pointers from people that have had their fair share of suffering and support.

“I’d say that what these experiences call for is a sort of passive activism. We have a tendency, especially in an achievement-oriented culture, to want to solve problems and repair brokenness — to propose, plan, fix, interpret, explain and solve. But what seems to be needed here is the art of presence — to perform tasks without trying to control or alter the elemental situation. Allow nature to take its course. Grant the sufferers the dignity of their own process. Let them define meaning. Sit simply through moments of pain and uncomfortable darkness. Be practical, mundane, simple and direct.”

See the full NY Times article here: goo.gl/0124W8